I get some of the most interesting questions. Some are deeply personal, including concern for a child or a spouse. Some are born from growing times in relationships, which take time and patience and work in the best of situations.
But there is a pervasive theme: some simply require the action of the will regarding something we know we need to do. Whether it’s procrastination or weariness or dread or whatever it is, sometimes we just can’t find the gumption to do what we know we should do.
Why is that?
Sometimes, as in the case of a dreaded task, we’ve just used up our pluck on other things, and feel unable to push through.
Other times, when a relationship requires some painful attention, it’s just easier to ignore it for as long as possible.
And then, there are the situations where the change required to solve the problem lies within. We all know it – you can’t change the other person; you can only change yourself. Sometimes, I am simply my own problem.
So what should you do in those moments when you are stalled out and can’t move forward?
First, clarify. Through prayer and assistance from God’s word, clearly identify what the real problem is.
Second, create an action plan. Do your research first, if necessary. If it’s a multi-faceted task or issue, break it up into manageable pieces.
Third, charge! Putting off the conversation, the task, the decision…whatever it is…only makes it grow bigger in your head and harder to face. Just. Do. The. Right. Thing. No more excuses, no more tomorrows, do it now. Be the grown up. Address your inner toddler and if necessary, bribe yourself with a reward – whatever it takes, just do that thing you’ve been putting off.
Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. – James 1:4 (NIV)